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A Perfect Book of Psalms

June 28, 2013 in Judaism, Reviews by thdpr

Since my husband and I got married, we have been doing the merge of two homes dance. You know how this goes…

I have a crockpot, you have a crockpot… my crockpot is newer… sell the old.

I have a couch, you have a couch… your couch is nicer… sell mine.

One thing that has been fun is the coming together of our books. Daniel doesn’t have too many in his house (not for lack of having books, rather because most at boxed up at his parents’ house) but I came with two bookshelves PLUS (not counting the work themed books I keep in my office at work).

tehillimLNow I don’t know how you organize books (I found out the other night that a friend and her husband do it by color… that’s cool) but I do it by subject and author. I have a shelf of “authors I know/am related to,” a shelf of old school books I still love, fiction, non-fiction, theatre… and Judaica. My Judaica shelf is exploding. I love collecting, not only interesting books, but also different types of prayerbooks and Torahs (chumashim), etc.

I was recently gifted with a BEAUTIFUL book of Tehillim (psalms) to review for a friend in New York. He, Rabbi Chaim Miller, is an AMAZING man in Crown Heights, Brooklyn. Not only is he warm and welcoming in his home but he is knowledgeable and fascinating. I feel pretty confident recommending any new book he comes out with. Rabbi Miller is part of the brains behind Kol Menachem. Here’s a little about Kol Menachem from their website:

The critically acclaimed Kol Menachem series represents the very best in English judaica. Our books boast finely crafted bindings, award-winning typography and an unparalleled richness of content.

Kol Menachem also believes that the quality of information must be matched by the quality of presentation. The use of stunning graphics, professional fonts, multiple commentaries, background material, diagrams and charts as well as insightful notes ensures a multifaceted and far-reaching learning experience in all our publications.

The exceptional lucidity and intellectual rigor of Kol Menachem’s presentations are thanks to the skilful pen of our chief editor, Rabbi Chaim Miller. Rabbi Miller’s achievement as an international scholar is substantiated by the vast dissemination of his works as well as the acclaim and prestige they have won him amongst his colleagues and in the educational and religious communities in which his works circulate.

The thing about Kol Menachem is, it’s not your grandpa’s siddur. They look beautiful on your bookshelves but they also draw you deeper into the text once you crack it open. Looking for an easy to read, beautiful chumash (Torah)? Check out their version here.

When Rabbi Miller asked me to review his new tehillim, I couldn’t say no. I have a soft spot for tehillim. When I can’t pray, when I can’t find a way to communicate with G!d, I turn to the psalms. Years ago I learned that you “have” a psalm for each year. Many years, I found that “my” psalm was so accurate for what I was going through and what I needed at the time. Here’s how you calculate: take your age (32) add one (making it 33) and that is your psalm for the year. Why? When you turn 32, you are going into your 33 year. Anyway, I love psalms. My issue is that my Hebrew is not good enough yet to read in lashon kodesh (the holy language) so I am always looking for options with a GOOD English translation and one that is easy to follow or pop over to the Hebrew when I can.

Not only does the new Kol Menachem Tehillim have large print Hebrew AND English but it has something I have never seen in a book of psalms before. At the bottom of the page, just like in a chumash, it offers “Classic Questions” and “Toras Menachem.” The Classic Questions offer insights and clarifications just as you would find in a chumash. Points that may seem unclear to an observer are clarified in a familiar place, at the bottom of the page. However, it is the Toras Menachem that is just fascinating. It is based on commentary from the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Menachem Mendel Schneerson. If you read the forward, you learn that this task was not as easy as it sounds. Yes, the Rebbe (as Rabbi Schneerson is referred to) gave many speeches but he did not spend a lot of time on the psalms. Rabbi Miller and his team spent a long time reviewing the Rebbe’s discourses, sermons, farbrengens, and other times psalms may have been mentioned. Rabbi Miller took the teachings from the Rebbe and shared these insights in a language we can understand.

Like I said earlier, Kol Menachem books are not only interesting and educational but beautiful for your bookshelf. I highly recommend this volume. I know our home is richer for it.

The details:

Here is information about this volume of tehillim from Kol Menachem:

Tehillim (Book of Psalms) – The Schottenstein Edition Price: $39.99 The luxurious, hand-crafted Schottenstein Edition Tehillim, represents the very peak of English Judaica. World-class typography by an award-winning designer, with gold and red-wine highlights, makes each page of this classic a rich feast for the eyes. An exceptionally lucid, flowing translation, is adorned with fascinating insights culled from over 200 traditional commentaries. A special feature is the Toras Menachem, inspirational commentaries from the late Lubavitcher Rebbe on Tehillim which have never been published before in English. The hand tooled faux-leather cover and luscious cream paper makes this the ideal gift.

6 1/2″ x 9 1/4″, 480 pages,
ISBN: 978-1-934152-35-5

To purchase, either click anywhere in the description above or click here – Kol Menachem Tehillim.

Here are some sample pages -

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Disclaimer: I received a copy of this book to review for free.

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Days like today…

June 13, 2013 in PR & Marketing by thdpr

When crisis strikes in Colorado, Israel or really anywhere in the world, my days look like this:

Wake up.

Learn there is a crisis.

Obsessively check Facebook, Twitter, news outlets, any information I can find online (in the case of the November 2012 Israeli engagement it was an awesome blogger giving blow by blow).

Compile information and compare with my team.

Obsessively check Facebook, Twitter, news outlets, any information I can find online.

Shout information from my office to my bosses office.

Obsessively check Facebook, Twitter, news outlets, any information I can find online.

Make a recommendation to the CEO to open a fund (or he tells us that we have to).

Obsessively check Facebook, Twitter, news outlets, any information I can find online.

Write an “ePhil” (electronic philanthropy) to our community.

Send said ePhil to team for fact/spell checking.

Obsessively check Facebook, Twitter, news outlets, any information I can find online.

Send said ePhil upstairs for approval.

Get told to add more pictures.

Obsessively look at devastating pictures from the tragedy.

Add them to ePhil.

Resend upstairs for approval.

Obsessively check Facebook, Twitter, news outlets, any information I can find online.

Nudge hard to get approval so we can send before 5pm.

Obsessively check Facebook, Twitter, news outlets, any information I can find online.

Get some changes or approval.

Send to community.

Obsessively check Facebook, Twitter, news outlets, any information I can find online.

Post it on Facebook while… obsessively checking Facebook, Twitter, news outlets, any information I can find online.

Obsessively check Facebook, Twitter, news outlets, any information I can find online until it is time to go home.

Obsessively check Facebook, Twitter, news outlets, any information I can find online at home.

Obsessively check Facebook, Twitter, news outlets, any information I can find online from bed before I fall asleep.

 

Wake up.

Obsessively check Facebook, Twitter, news outlets, any information I can find online.

Write another message from the CEO/ press release to news outlets.

Obsessively check Facebook, Twitter, news outlets, any information I can find online.

 

I think you can see where this is going…

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Young Me/Old Me

May 31, 2013 in Random by thdpr

I may be creating a never ending spiral by posting this but… it got me thinking. And frankly as meme’s go, this isn’t the worst one…

A friend from high school wrote a post with the identical title – Young Me/Old Me wherein she referenced another mutual friend from high school who wrote I think I’ve turned into a wuss.

My high school friend, Jason, wrote in I think I’ve turned into a wuss:

I have been missing the belief that I can do anything.  I have been missing the realization that I was not stuck in a rut.  I have been missing the desire to be creative, be exploratory, be expressive and cling to God with my life in obedience.  I wondered what happened to Young Me who spent hours in the driveway on Mockingbird Drive pretending he was in the NBA.  Young Me played ball until he couldn’t even see the rim.  Young Me also had a back story for all his toys.  Young Me had a spaceship made out of a bush that grew next to two oak trees and had half of a cinder block for the commander’s chair.  Young Me didn’t care what others thought.  Young Me rocked.

My high school friend, Erin, wrote in Young Me/Old Me:

“Aren’t the 30s weird? Like we’ve done all the things we’re supposed to do, gone to school and gotten jobs and started families, and at any moment it could all explode. We could all go back to square one. And it wouldn’t be that bad.”

And

What did your Young Me do that your Old Me doesn’t?

Young Me decorated the pages of my journals with paint and crayons.
Young Me laughed the loudest and didn’t care.
Young Me tossed out unsolicited opinions.
Young Me watched movies alone.
Young Me went jogging any old time, not concerned about when the last time I went jogging.
Young Me painted my favorite quotes on my walls.
Young Me hugged everyone.
Young Me danced without drinking first.
Young Me climbed trees.

My Young Me rocked, too. I could probably stand to be a little more like my Young Me.

So this makes me start thinking about Erin’s young her because … well I knew her for part of that time. Which then makes me think of young me… How have I changed? How have the 30′s changed me? For all intents and purposes, these are the best days of my life! I mean it, truly. I am happier and healthier and fitter and more content with my life today than I was as “young me.”

Let us compare, shall we:

Young Me
Old Me
Nervous and scared Confident
Shy and awkward Outgoing (can I say confident again?)
Really cared what other people thought of me Can I say confident again?
Unfettered by debt Fiscally aware
Longing for something more Content with my life

 

But here’s the thing… what both blogs said is true. The 30′s are weird. I’m on a precipice of life but I have already lived so much. I have experienced so much but there is a lot to come. Children and adventures, all sorts of things. So… let’s do the exercise…

thoughtful talia What did your Young Me do that your Old Me doesn’t?

Young Me burned 30 candles in my room while pretending to play guitar without fear that I the music I made was horrid (it was).
Young Me sang along to old show tunes records at the top of my lungs. (And by records, I mean REAL vinyl!)
Young Me was fearless on the stage when Young Me couldn’t be fearless in real life.
Young Me kept trying new things (guitar, violin, painting, drawing, dancing, gymnastics, life guarding).
Young Me found time to have fun no matter what (with my brother, or my parents, or my friends, or myself).

Young Me did rock. I am proud of who I was. But I am also proud of who I have become. I am SO thankful to Erin and Jason for starting me on this thought path. While my inference may have been slightly different, the thought is the same… don’t forget the simple pleasures in life but do stop listening to the little voice in your head that tells you no no no because you are over 30!

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Update on the No Pants Dance

May 31, 2013 in Finances by thdpr

I was over at my favorite financial advice website, LearnVest, reading an article about this woman’s quest for a perfect credit score and I realized… I just stopped my No Pants Dance updates when I got engaged. I mean, to be honest, I was a little bit distracted by my handsome fiancé and our wedding and then our honeymoon and now our adorable puppy BUT that is no excuse.

Let’s start with a recap. I decided to do the No Pants Dance in May of last year. Read about that here. Then I recapped June, my first full month of No Pants Dancing here. In the middle of month two, July, I wrote this. Then in August, month three, I wrote about our food growing expeditions and teaching my nephew to save and invest.

Then I disappeared. Life got busy, the Jewish holidays came, and then… my Sweet Boyfriend proposed. :) My whole life changed, in the best possible way. All this to say… I got busy. So here is your update on the No Pants Dance.

Refresher, the goals were:

  • I will be out of credit card debt in 9 months
  • I will have a significant amount in my retirement account by then
  • Once I am out of CC debt, I will put that money towards my car, student loans, and savings
  • I will put at least 30% of my income towards bills, loans, or savings every month

In the one year since I began this financial journey I have:

  • Gotten myself out of credit card debt (with the help of my husband)
  • Put the full amount my employer was matching towards my 401k last year (and so far this year) and transferred old 401ks that were sitting around and doing nothing into an IRA I can manage. I also put the full amount I could away in my new IRA.
  • Taken the money saved from the credit card debt and put it towards our wedding. We paid for a significant amount of our wedding and that wiped out all the extra we were saving from not having to make those payments and more. However, we are putting more towards the car than the minimum payment required.

Since we now have two incomes, we are using my husband’s for wedding bills and paying down debt and mine for monthly expenses. Again, with our wedding, everything is tight this year. So you could say we are still on a No Pants Dance. Since returning from our honeymoon, we are on a strict budget. No extraneous clothing expenses… no fancy dinners out… that was what the honeymoon was for! The goal is to pay off my car and his small amount of student loans PLUS most of my student loans that are borrowed at 6.5% in the next year. We will then put the rest to savings and tackling the rest of the debt (which at that point isn’t much).

Our new, fresh goals:

  • Pay off car and 6.5% loans in 2014
  • Pay off all debt by 2015
  • Buy a house with at least 20% down in 2016
  • Continue to max out IRA contributions every year
  • Live a happy and debt free life
Haykin Family Photo 2013

Haykin Family Photo 2013

So there you go. My life has radically changed in the last 12 months. Where I used to feel overwhelmed by debt and finances, I am energized and excited about tackling this challenge. I am excited to help my husband build his business as a financial advisor and build our home together with our puppy and in the future, our children. And you know I will continue to coupon and check in with my No Pants Dance!

P.S. anyone have any freelance needs? I am taking work to help pay down the debt! Contact me at taliashewrote @ gmail dot com :)

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Ever Been Threatened On Your Blog?

May 21, 2013 in PR & Marketing by thdpr

Add me to that list. Last year I wrote about a dubious email I received from a Matthew T. Keener of CMO Summits.  You can read the blog post in full here – Marketing Directors Targeted in Scam|Spam. I wrote about how when I tried to learn more about this potential professional development opportunity I hit one road block after another which made me curious about this organization. In the end, I wrote that others had branded this a scam, the IP addresses and emails were marked as spam and though they may be legitimate businesses, their practices made them appear to be scams.

Last week I received this email.

From: Michael Price
Sent: Thursday, May 09, 2013 2:58 AM
To: TALIA
Cc: MY BOSS
Subject: Talia, immediate request.

Talia, I am one of the principals at BizSummits and just became aware of your libelous blog about us and our CMO Summit which you refer to as a “scam” and “scammers”. We are certainly not, I am shocked by what you wrote, and I would ask that you immediately take down that libelous post in its entirety or we will have no choice but to take legal action against you personally and YOUR WORKPLACE in the Superior Court of Denver.

We have many members, monthly speakers, and if you need any proof of some nature you are welcome to pick out any speaker(s) at the cmo-summit.org and Kristin on our staff (kristen@bizsummits.org) would be glad to send you the meeting recordings which we obviously could not do if the organization were a scam as you have written. I would also suggest you not refer to the cmosummit.org in any future libelous posts.  While we are not related to the CMO Council which owns that site, I assure you they are a wonderful organization with thousands of members worldwide and would also protect their reputation.

Talia, I am truly shocked at what you wrote and when you wrote it which appears to be on company time with YOUR WORKPLACE. Shameful.

Sincerely,
Michael Price
BizSummits
Tel. 770-998-9999 x.9
MPrice@BizSummits.org

I was shocked at his tone and the way he tried to bully me by copying the CEO of my organization. He makes some pretty harsh claims here. My husband and I decided to take some time to think about this threat and consult some lawyer friends. That combined with the Jewish holiday Shavuot kept me from replying right away… After the chag (holiday) I opened my email to find another threat from Michael Price.

Talia/BOSS, it has been almost a week and I have received no response to your libelous pages which are still online. If this continues we will have no choice but to take legal action for the defamation done by one of your staff during business hours below.

http://taliashewrote.com/2012/08/13/marketing-directors-targeted-in-scamspam

Wow. He makes some interesting claims. Libeling me to the head of my company and potentially causing some serious harm to my reputation… things he accused me of. I have responded to him now, letting him know that I will not be bullied and any correspondence would be published here. So bloggers beware. If you mention this guy, he may come after you. I see several dead links from people who took blogs down but several other bloggers who refused to kowtow to his threats. This is my response to him.

Michael -

A week ago you wrote to threaten me, and my employer, with a lawsuit.  In another email Wednesday, you wrote to express surprise that you haven’t heard back yet.  Since I don’t often need to defend against baseless accusations and legal threats, it would seem natural that I needed some time to formulate an appropriate response.  I think I understand your eagerness much better now; you are much more experienced than I in discussing frivolous legal claims.  You have a rather dubious history of threatening others with lawsuits: here, here, and here.  Since you weren’t successful at removing their postings, what makes you think it will work this time?  As it is your tactic to shame (your word) others, I will share, publicly, my responses to your allegations and review some of your business practices.  I will share the facts only, which have earned you an F rating with the Better Business Bureau (link).  Shameful Michael, just shameful.

To begin with, my blog posting contains no libelous or defamatory statements.  I wrote about my experiences with your company through the email I was sent and about your publicly known business practices.  My blog posting was comprised of the facts only. It is not my fault that they make BizSummits look bad.  The posting takes the reader through my experiences trying to research your organization.  You see Michael, when I first received your email I was genuinely interested in participating in one of your events.  My experience trying to contact anyone with your organization was fruitless.  I searched for your website and included screen shots of the results.  They weren’t impressive, I will admit.  Having hit a cul-de-sac trying to learn literally anything about your organization, I posted widely available information including the IP addresses and the email address from which I received the invitation.  It is all known spam (link and link).  These are the facts; it is my opinion that they paint your organization in a poor light.  This is not libel; it is the publicly known truth.

I closed my blog post by linking to others who came to the conclusion that your “summits” were not in fact reliable nor were our email addresses acquired in a reasonable and legal manner according to the CAN-SPAM act (violation of Sec. 6(b)(1)(A)(i)as you did not have prior affirmative consent and it appears that my email address was harvested by automated means). Finally, I placed a large disclaimer in “H2″ font stating that these are my personal opinions posted. It says -
PLEASE NOTE: I am presenting information here. Information that I feel is pertinent to my fellow marketers. Some of these may be legit businesses but there are practices that I feel are spammy or scammy and make them suspect to me. These are my own opinions.

I never said that it was a fact that your organization is a scam; I said your organization seems like a scam. Get the difference? As I told you before, I contacted your employee, Matt T. Keener, letting him know that your links didn’t work and that I was interested in more information.  I received no response and your links sent me to dead ends. Naturally I was curious and did a simple Google search. What I found about BizSummits and about you, Michael, was your dubious history dealing with other bloggers.  More on that in a moment.

In reference to the comments posted to the blog, Section 230 of Title 47 of the United States Code (47 USC § 230) states that “No provider or user of an interactive computer service shall be treated as the publisher or speaker of any information provided by another information content provider.” The federal law preempts any state laws to the contrary: “[n]o cause of action may be brought and no liability may be imposed under any State or local law that is inconsistent with this section.” Therefore, I cannot be held liable for these comments as I cannot be treated as a publisher.

So now we have established that there are no defamatory or libelous statements in my blog posting.  Excellent.  However, I do not think the same can be said about your email to my boss.  You, Michael, have in fact libeled me.

There is a burden in cases of defamation to provide four claims to a court:

  1. First, the plaintiff must show that the DEFENDANT communicated a defamatory statement.
    You falsely claimed I wrote defamatory statements during company time.
  2. Second, the plaintiff must show that the statement was published or communicated to at least one other person besides the plaintiff.
    This was communicated to not only me, but to my CEO, MY BOSS.
  3. Third, the plaintiff must show that the communication was about the plaintiff and that another party receiving the communication could identify the plaintiff as the subject of the defamatory message.
    You clearly state my name twice in the email and once in the subject line including in the statement in question.
  4. Fourth, the plaintiff must show that the communication injured the plaintiff’s reputation.
    This has injured my reputation at my job by telling my CEO that I was using work time for personal projects and to spread libelous claims.

Now that we’ve explored my legal basis for a libel suit against you, let’s talk about your false claim that I wrote my blog during work time.  This is especially amusing coming from you, since you made it literally impossible to avoid talking about work.  After all, BizSummits sent me what seems like spam to my work email account.  Why is this confusing Michael?  Your claim is as poorly thought out as it is wrong.

A reasonable person would think you would be better at intimidating bloggers by now.  You’ve had three years, as far as I can tell, to hone the skill.  The earliest example I found was from 2010, but the tactics haven’t aged a year.  What I find “shameful” is the bullying and intimidation of bloggers who don’t agree with your questionable practices. I applaud the others for not bending to your threats and I will not be taking my posting down either. Rather, you should be aware that all previous and future contacts or actions on your part will be shared with the public.

Talia Davis Haykin

Where you see capitals (MY BOSS, MY WORKPLACE), I have removed information to protect my boss and my workplace. So readers… what would you do?

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Mandy Patinkin at JFS Luncheon

April 24, 2013 in Judaism, Pop Culture, PR & Marketing by thdpr

I had the pleasure of listening to Mr. Patinkin speak at the Jewish Family Service luncheon here in Colorado. He was a joy to listen to and he sang a little bit of a song a the end in English and Yiddish. Here are my tweets from the event and the sound bite at the end.

 

 

 

 


oops… break the bread to come back together

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Mandy Patinkin Singing at JFS

 

Jewish Family Service of Colorado Video

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Purex Earth Day Contest!

April 22, 2013 in PR & Marketing by thdpr

Folks! Get in on this Purex contest for a chance to win!

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The Go Purex Gro Green Instagram Contests ends Tuesday, April 30th, so don’t delay!
Instructions:

1. Follow Purex on Instagram, @Purex

2. Instagram a photo of your favorite eco-friendly practice or activity

3. Be sure to use the hashtag #GoPurexGoGreen in the photo caption and share the photo on Facebook & Twitter

4. Ask your friends to “like” your photo on Instagram to increase your chances of winning.
Prizes:

The 5 participants that receive the most “likes” on Instagram will get their very own mini greenhouse (ARV $50), along with a free bottle of Purex Natural Elements detergent (ARV $6). This contest ends April 30th, so there’s no time to waste! Get started now and you just might find that with Purex, it pays to be green.

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The Name Change Game – Part 1

April 18, 2013 in Wedding by thdpr

I wrote this post over on my wedding blog but I thought you all might find it helpful too.

Name Change featured imageHello ladies! In all my post-wedding glow, I have been trying to get some business done! That involves changing my name to Haykin (something I was very excited about but did not do without thought). It is kinda a jungle out there when it comes to name changing. There are a lot of resources but I found out somethings while I was doing it that I thought I would share. This is only the first part (as evidenced by the title) because we are tackling the credit cards and bank accounts next. Be sure to come back for that information.

Ok, let’s get started. The name change game actually begins BEFORE you get married, at least in Colorado. While I cannot verify this for other states, I will tell you how it works here and you can be prepared to ask the right questions.

  1. Marriage License:
    This is a key part of changing your name. You can’t do ANYTHING without it. When we went to get our marriage license, the clerk asked us if we wanted certified copies. Why would we need them, we asked. Well, it turns out that some places want you to mail them a copy of your marriage license (though I have not yet run into that) but additionally, I felt a heck of a lot safer carrying around certified copies than carrying our ACTUAL marriage license around. When we picked up our license, we ordered three certified copies. See if you can do this as well, as it will save you time on the other side. It already took weeks to get the license back… I would have been sad to wait for copies too.
  2. Social Security Card:
    This is your first stop once you have that marriage license in your hand. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. You can’t do anything else until you are in the SS system with your new name. As far as I can tell, the Social Security Administration does not take appointments for SS card issues. That means you have to stand in line. It took me 2 hours (and I got there before they opened) to get to the counter and talk to someone. My advice here? Read this PDF on how to change your name with Social Security and fill out the form at the end. Bring it with you to the office. This speeds things up because if you don’t, you will have to fill it out on-site. Notice they ask for SS numbers of your parents… yeah, I had to call my mom about that one! I don’t know how it works if you don’t have that information. Here is the document: Application For A Social Security Card. To find your local office, go here. At this appointment, you will need to bring:

    1. Marriage License
    2. Driver’s License
    3. And if you haven’t been there before… bring your passport just in case. They sometimes need evidence of age and US Citizenship and it can’t hurt to be prepared.
    4. Your application form

    This process can be done by mail or in-person. I recommend in person because you cannot do anything else until your name is changed in the SS system. Once you have completed it on-site, you know when you can proceed to the next steps! You will not get your new card on-site. That takes a few weeks but they will give you a letter saying that it’s happening with your new name.

  3. Driver’s License:
    Here’s something I didn’t see ANYWHERE when I was looking up how to change my name… You cannot go from the Social Security office to the DMV in the same day. I had set myself up to do that and was told I had to wait at least 24 hours for the system to update. Yikes. That means two separate days in government offices. Also, at least in Colorado, you can make DMV appointments. That is great! I was in and out in 20 minutes! Remember to check with your local DMV for their requirements. This is only based on my experiences. Once you are there, they will ask for all your documents and process you. If you wear glasses, you will get the vision test again and then they will call you up to take a new picture (SMILE) and sign your new name… yes ladies, sign you new name so practice before you go! :) Once you have waited 24 hours, here is what you need to bring to the DMV:

    1. Your old driver’s license (they will punch a hole in it because it isn’t valid anymore but I kept mine since my credit cards are still in my maiden name… weeee! I get to say maiden name!)
    2. Marriage License
    3. Letter from Social Security or your card (but really they will just look you up in their system)
    4. CASH OR CHECKS! Most DMVs will NOT accepts cards! Bring cash or checks. It costs $21 in Denver, Colorado.
    5. Proof of address if you have moved. This includes:
      • Utility bill IN YOUR NAME WITH NEW ADDRESS
      • Pay check stub IN YOUR NAME WITH NEW ADDRESS
      • Credit Card statement IN YOUR NAME WITH NEW ADDRESS
      • Phone bill IN YOUR NAME WITH NEW ADDRESS
      • Mortgage or rent document IN YOUR NAME WITH NEW ADDRESS
      • Tax document IN YOUR NAME WITH NEW ADDRESS
      • Homeowners/renters insurance policy IN YOUR NAME WITH NEW ADDRESS
      • Vehicle registration IN YOUR NAME WITH NEW ADDRESS
  4. Your Work:
    This last piece I have for you is somewhat vague. Of course, let your work know that you are getting married and planning on changing your name. In my case, my husband came onto my insurance so there was a lot of paperwork to do. To change the name with our payroll company, I needed a marriage license and a copy of my new social security card. The best idea is to speak to your HR or Finance folks and ask the questions. Every workplace is different but don’t be afraid to have the conversation. In my office, I also had to put a work order in with IT to get a new email address. Who knows when they actually with start using my last name! :)

Well, that’s what I have for your today. Stay tuned, I will update you on the next steps! And head on over to www.TheHaykins.com for more wedding related stuff!

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New Facebook Event Images

April 17, 2013 in PR & Marketing by thdpr

Facebook EventsIf you post events to Facebook, you may have noticed that they have changed the format for the images. They haven’t yet allowed you to format you text, which I am patiently waiting for (you hear that FB?! Patiently WAITING!) but they have given you a banner image now which, in my opinion, is much better than the small thumbnail you could not expand.

The new banner size is 714×264, however, keep in mind that Facebook like to change these things on a whim and not always tell you. (As I found out with their cover photos when they adjusted it a few pixels.) This website has a nice Photoshop template for folks who want some guidance but you can do this yourself. Obviously, a knowledge (and ownership) of Photoshop is helpful but you can do this without it.

Here are some options:

  1. GIMP
    The GNU Image Manipulation Program is a great application that was created for photo retouching, image composition and image authoring. Written on Unix, GIMP is arguably the most popular alternative for Photoshop available today.
  2. Picasa
    Originally created and sold by Idealab, Google aquired Picasa in 2004 and released it to the world for free. The current version supports easy geo tagging and heavy integration with Google+ that lets you easily tag Google+ friends and share photos through your circles. It’s user-friendly interface makes it easy to apply basic edits to your photos and touch them up. 12 effects are available and there are additional affects via Picnik too.
  3. Pixlr
    Pixlr is a perfect online image editing application that is designed for non professional users and allows them to easily edit images. It combines image design and paint tools with photo editing and adjustment features more convincingly than any other online image editing program.
  4. PhotoPos Pro
    PhotoPos Pro is a rich photo editor that has support for most picture file types and support for digital scanners. It also features image enhancement, text tools, layers, masks and special effects.
  5. Sumo Paint
    Sumo Paint is an online image editing application similar to Adobe Photoshop.
  6. Splashup
    Splashup is a powerful editing tool and photo manager. With the features professionals use and novices want, it’s easy to use, works in real-time and allows you to edit many images at once. Splashup runs in all browsers, integrates seamlessly with top photo-sharing sites, and even has its own file format so you can save your work in progress.
  7. PicMagick
    PicMagick is an online photo editor that enables you to make ordinary photos look wonderful within a few clicks. It will surprise you how fabulous your photos can be and how easily this can be done.
  8. Photoshop.com
    Photoshop.com is the complete solution for managing, editing, storing, and sharing your photos online, with tutorials, inspiration, and more. Photoshop.com is available from any web-enabled computer, compatible mobile phones, and directly from within Adobe Photoshop Elements 7 or Adobe Premiere Elements 7 software. With Photoshop.com, you can organize, tweak, create, e-mail, display, and store your photos.
  9. Pixer.us
    pixer.us lets you manipulate, edit, enhance and apply filters to your digital pictures using only your web browser.
  10. Snipshot
    Snipshot is a fast online image editor. You can use it right from your browser, no downloads or Flash required.

Disclaimer: I am not promoting any of these tools. They are just suggestions that I have spoken to friends, industry insiders, and read about on blogs. I am sorry if something goes wrong if you use one… but I am not responsible! Practice responsible downloading!

by thdpr

And I’m back!

March 28, 2013 in Family, Wedding by thdpr

Hello! I would say sorry for the hiatus but I’m not. We are back from our amazing honeymoon and getting back into the swing of things. I can’t believe it all happened, that we pulled it all off, but man… it feels great to be married!

In case you missed it, here is the New York Times article on our engagement. It came out the day we were married… more to come!

 

Talia Davis, Daniel Haykin

Dox Photo
By ROSALIE R. RADOMSKY
Published: March 10, 2013

Small Garden, Big Yield: A Marriage

Talia Hava Davis, the daughter of Iana Kade Davis and Rabbi Bahir Davis, both of Lafayette, Colo., is to be married Sunday to Daniel Solomon Haykin, the son of Elena Haykin and Michael Haykin of Centennial, Colo. Rabbi Zalman Schachter-Shalomi is to lead the ceremony, with the bride’s father participating, at the McNichols Building, an event space in Denver.

The bride, 31, will take her husband’s name. She is the senior manager for marketing of the Allied Jewish Federation of Colorado, a nonprofit fund-raising group for Jewish organizations, in Denver. She graduated magna cum laude from Jacksonville University in Jacksonville, Fla., and received a master’s in public relations and marketing from the University of Denver.

The bride’s father is a rabbi in Lafayette, where he also runs Rocky Mountain Hai, a spiritual group, of which her mother is the administrator. Her mother also works in Lafayette as an executive assistant to the chief executive officer at Ilantus Technologies, a security technology firm based in Bangalore, India. The bride is the stepdaughter of Danielle Davis.

The groom, also 31, works in Denver as an investment adviser with his father, who runs a private financial investment firm in Centennial. The groom graduated from the University of Rochester. His mother retired as an electrical engineer in Longmont, Colo., at Seagate Technology, the hard-drive maker.

The couple were introduced by a mutual friend in early April 2012. Halfway through their first date at a Denver wine bar, Ms. Davis texted her roommate. “This is the man I’m going to marry,” she recalled texting.

A week earlier, Ms. Davis had acquired a small plot that needed tending at the community garden at Ekar Farm in Denver. By their third date she recruited Mr. Haykin, along with one of her friends, as gardeners.

Mr. Haykin showed up with garden tools. For several hours they worked.

Every Sunday they returned to the garden for “a big weeding date,” he said with a laugh. “We’d get dusty and dirty, and got blisters.”

They also stopped by during the week to water, and six weeks after the seeds were planted, they sprouted, along with their relationship.

“I was leaving for a trip,” the bride said, “and he took me to a cute bar and blurted out that he loved me. I started to tear up and said that ‘I love you, too.’ ”

In September, with the garden in full bloom, Mr. Haykin proposed with a ring hidden inside a gardening glove. “Babe, come here, you have to see this,” she recalled him saying from where he crouched behind a couple of plants.

“I came running, asking if it was a squash,” she said. He stood up with the open ring box. She froze.

After she said “yes” at least a half-dozen times, he quickly tended to matters at hand. “Can you put this thing on your finger before I drop it in the dirt?” he said.
ROSALIE R. RADOMSKY